Friendship is the positive and
unalterable choice of a person
whom we have singled out for
qualities that we most admire.
~Abel Bonnard
Online Friendships: Treasures of Technology
By Brenda Hyde
You've asked for help on one of your email lists, looking for some
friendly advice. She not only offered an opinion but a solution for a
problem you were having. The next week you end up in the same
chat and she is a friendly "face" since you are nervous about the
whole chat process. You suddenly realize you have met a woman
who has the same sense of humor, the same values and same
interests as you do! Your emails fly back and forth and before
you know it, a bond has formed with someone miles away in
distance but close to you on your computer.
The Internet can be overwhelming at times. Technology has
always been looked upon with caution. What will it bring to our
future? What does it mean to our privacy? Amidst this debate
are women from around the world who have connected emotionally
with each other. Cyndi Webb, of
Moms Network Exchange, said;
"I have found that the women I have made friendships with to be some of
the most honest, generous and down to earth people that I've met. They
have not only brought new laughter and warmth into my life, but have
stretched me in the ways that I think and do business. They have been a
source of strength and support in ways that I never imagined."
When I was growing up my mother had two friends that we would
visit with often. They would chat in the kitchen while we played in
the yard. With so many women having home businesses today we
are often on our computer working throughout the day, and contact
with other women in our community may be more limited. Online
friendships can provide that "coffee break" to interact with women
who are of like mind and understand our struggles and our victories.
Catie Gosselin, of
WomanLinks.com, compares her online and offline friendships.
"They feel as real to me, but they serve a different purpose. My offline
friendships usually center around motherhood and my personal interests,
while online friendships have the added dimensions of parenting,
personal interests and business. I feel like my online friendships are
with other women who really understand what the demands of my life are,
because they are in the same boat."
What is real friendship?
Someone who is not online on a regular basis, or at all, has a hard time
understanding a friendship formed on the Internet. You may have heard
comments like "Oh, are they your virtual friend?". Is email any
different than writing a letter to a close friend? Yes. With email you
don't have to wait for the post office to deliver your message.
Interaction is often immediate if you are using chatrooms or
instant messaging. Lisa Bryan, a freelance writer, finds
encouragement and humor from her online friends;
"My online buddies are just as real to me as my "in person" friends. I
have more frequent contact with my web friends, and we're more in touch
with each other's ups and downs. There's tons of support, humor, and
fun."
Our online friendships can be as real, and just as supportive as
offline friendships. The Internet allows us to get past the distance
barriers. We can now communicate with people all over the
world. Shannon Warnick, who has written
Pathways to the Past, A Quick Start Guide to Researching Your
Roots, has this to say:
"My online friends tend to be more real than my offline friends, because
I usually communicate with them at least once every few days. My online
friends are a very special group, mostly women, who are very supportive
and nonjudgmental. They tend to offer a wider range of perspective than
my offline friends."
Real friendship is about support, sharing, laughter, and loyalty. In a
quotation from William Terhune he expresses his feelings on
friendship:
"Constantly look for a new friend, a truly first-class person, one who
has the courage to criticize, to demand your best self, a person who has
different interests and different beliefs from yours, a friend for whom
you can render a constructive service. Devote energy toward making such
friends. Retain them, never let them go, and continue making new friends
until you die."
Our online friends are truly treasures of technology that we
should not let slip away. In a world where loyalty and understanding
are often hard to come by, we should hold on to all of our friendships,
and be thankful for our online and offline relationships.
About the author:
Brenda Hyde is editor of Seeds of Knowledge, and a freelance writer. She has been on the internet now for over two years, and has made friends with women all over the world.
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