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amymorgan1970 · 11-07-2009, 06:16 PM

I am struggling. I think the most problem is the move across the country. I miss my friends and my old place.

My husband is looking for work/starting a new business. I do accounting work, but not steady.

I find myself not wanting to do the things that I love. I feel lost and that no one really cares.

Too much, too fast.

Smiling Dawn · 11-07-2009, 10:02 PM

I will send you a huge hug

, amymorgan, and tell you that I care. I only moved 30 minutes NorthEast 18 months aga and I am still having a hard time.

You matter and what you'd like to do matters.
One day at a time. I will join you walking one day at a time.

God is good and He doesn't change.

French Girl · 11-07-2009, 10:11 PM

Amy, It sounds as if your getting into a depression mode. Its hard when you have changes especially moving to another state, away from friends.Its also hard not to have your own place, your own things of familiarity. Well I can tell you that I care, and its good you write here so you can get some comfort..

I will be praying that you will meet some new friends there soon. If you want you can PM me and we can talk. just this past year I went through a really very lonely time as well. You must feel like a stranger in a strange land...Texas and Ohio are so different.

**Gayla** · 11-07-2009, 10:31 PM

It seems like when we're nice and comfortable in our situation, we just don't want to embrace any changes. I think you're absolutely right that you've faced too many changes in such a short time. But here you are....so, maybe you just need to reach out and get involved in making some new friends.

When I retired, I was really afraid that I'd get bored and depressed. I had just finished my battle with cancer, was weak and sick from the treatments, and the company at which I worked for 26 years was sold. I knew it was just a matter of time they would replace me for someone half my age at half my salary with a better health history. I wanted to leave on my own steam, not be let go. Everyone that I worked with has since been replaced, so my hunches were right on. All my friends worked and I felt lost. I needed to make new friends and I needed spiritual uplifting. So, I walked into a Bible Study Group I had heard about, at a church not my own, knowing nobody. I have been with this group for 2 years now and have made some really wonderful friends. These women would be shocked at how much being a part of their group has meant to me. I also started volunteering at my grandsons' school a day a week in the library. Through those two activities, I have met new friends and my days feel full. We sometimes meet for lunch or a shopping trip after our meeting.

Please don't think that nobody cares. There are tons of people out there that care and all you have to do is find them. I think maybe you'd feel better if you could just get out and have some fun, meet some new girlfriends, and get involved in something you could look forward to.

I hate it that I sound like I'm on a soapbox, but it so worked for me when I was facing the changes of retirement. And of course I hope you feel like we're your new friends here too. Feel free to talk about things anytime.

Mrs.Purple · 11-07-2009, 11:06 PM

Awww....Amy

...I've been your shoes, and it is hard to move away from everything that you knew and get used to the new life.

I had lived in the same small town all of my life with the exception of a year in college. My parents, brothers, and Gram all lived close by. My girls were in first grade and third grade. We moved 7 1/2 hours away to Kentucky. My husband's brothers and their wives already lived there so we all became neighbors. For a while the challenge of moving, setting up a household, and doing home renovations kept me very busy. We were involved in our church and I got along well with my sister-in-laws. But there came a time when it all hit me. I was out in the country and really didn't know a soul.
It was hard to make that move. But now it is one of the things that I am most proud of.
I found out that people do care, no matter where you are. And it is hard to make new friends but my daughters school was a great place to start. I got involved with Girl Scouts, and doing stuff at the school with the PTA. I guess you can kinda say I used my girls for ice breakers. LOL!
I stepped up at church and got involved there with making gift baskets for the people that were in the hospital or nursing homes. That got me out and meeting new people.

So take a deep breath and just give yourself a little hug. Every change brings a little bit of grief, but then it brings along a lot of opportunity.
We will all be here to listen to you any time and give you support. We care.

amymorgan1970 · 11-08-2009, 10:30 AM

Thank all of you so much. I really needed this.

Thank you for caring about a complete stranger.

God Bless all of you.

**bearwoman** · 11-09-2009, 12:29 AM

Ah amy i know how you feel.I moved away from all i knew 11 years ago.and for the first 3 months i cried myself to sleep every night.its very hard to adjust to any move really.hopeing you can find some peace somewhere and some great new friends.

sheila · 11-09-2009, 12:33 PM

:to you we moved into our new farm house in the country on our small farm from the city
While I am glad we are finally down here
the stress was and still is hard
I have a lot in my family
We all experiance different kinds.
I hope you soon find some release and some joy
Try listening to the music you love
Enjoying nature
Do some form of hobby you love. hugs to you sheila

JMNBean · 11-09-2009, 03:52 PM

Wow! I'm happy I found this site because I thought I was going through some of the most difficult times in my life and here I am with another. I can't top it because it is a horrible devastating feeling when CHANGE...is not always what we would like it to be.

At this moment tears are beginning to form. Why is it that this site is all the people that mean well, but don't get enough of the true wellness of being beautiful, compassionate people?

We all want to live this...so my heartfelt prayers to you. We all constantly need this!!!

amymorgan1970 · 11-09-2009, 08:38 PM

Thank you.

If people were more compassionate, the world would be a much better place.

Blessings.

**mcgill** · 11-10-2009, 11:39 AM

Amy, please be gentle with yourself. You're going through a phase of grief - loss of familiarity of surroundings & friends. The circumstances surrounding them are beyond your control, so please don't try and let this get you down.

JMNBean · 11-10-2009, 01:23 PM

Oh Yeah!!! I agree!!!

amymorgan1970 · 11-10-2009, 04:26 PM

Thank you Mcgill. It is a huge adjustment/loss.

Texas is a far cry from Ohio. It is like moving to a new country.

I was so upbeat and positive when I left Ohio. But I think the stress is getting to me.

I hate things being so uncertain. I know to trust in God's path. But it is very hard for me.

Smiling Dawn · 11-11-2009, 07:47 AM

French Girl · 11-11-2009, 08:29 AM

amymorgan1970 · 11-11-2009, 09:11 AM

Thanks guys.

11-07-2009, 06:16 PM	#1
amymorgan1970 Tea Cake Baker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX USA Posts: 201	Help I am struggling. I think the most problem is the move across the country. I miss my friends and my old place. My husband is looking for work/starting a new business. I do accounting work, but not steady. I find myself not wanting to do the things that I love. I feel lost and that no one really cares. Too much, too fast.

11-07-2009, 10:02 PM	#2
Smiling Dawn Tea Party Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 8,115	I will send you a huge hug , amymorgan, and tell you that I care. I only moved 30 minutes NorthEast 18 months aga and I am still having a hard time. You matter and what you'd like to do matters. One day at a time. I will join you walking one day at a time. God is good and He doesn't change. __________________ It all is not lost, where is it? ~Barbara Johnson Dh tells me he was in the mood for Christmas shopping the other day. But he doesn't remember when... or exactly... or which day that was. Lol!

11-07-2009, 10:11 PM	#3
French Girl Scone Maker Join Date: May 2009 Location: wisconsin, u.s. Posts: 475	Amy, It sounds as if your getting into a depression mode. Its hard when you have changes especially moving to another state, away from friends.Its also hard not to have your own place, your own things of familiarity. Well I can tell you that I care, and its good you write here so you can get some comfort..I will be praying that you will meet some new friends there soon. If you want you can PM me and we can talk. just this past year I went through a really very lonely time as well. You must feel like a stranger in a strange land...Texas and Ohio are so different.

11-07-2009, 10:31 PM	#4
Gayla Hostess and Moderator Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Georgia Posts: 7,437	It seems like when we're nice and comfortable in our situation, we just don't want to embrace any changes. I think you're absolutely right that you've faced too many changes in such a short time. But here you are....so, maybe you just need to reach out and get involved in making some new friends. When I retired, I was really afraid that I'd get bored and depressed. I had just finished my battle with cancer, was weak and sick from the treatments, and the company at which I worked for 26 years was sold. I knew it was just a matter of time they would replace me for someone half my age at half my salary with a better health history. I wanted to leave on my own steam, not be let go. Everyone that I worked with has since been replaced, so my hunches were right on. All my friends worked and I felt lost. I needed to make new friends and I needed spiritual uplifting. So, I walked into a Bible Study Group I had heard about, at a church not my own, knowing nobody. I have been with this group for 2 years now and have made some really wonderful friends. These women would be shocked at how much being a part of their group has meant to me. I also started volunteering at my grandsons' school a day a week in the library. Through those two activities, I have met new friends and my days feel full. We sometimes meet for lunch or a shopping trip after our meeting. Please don't think that nobody cares. There are tons of people out there that care and all you have to do is find them. I think maybe you'd feel better if you could just get out and have some fun, meet some new girlfriends, and get involved in something you could look forward to. I hate it that I sound like I'm on a soapbox, but it so worked for me when I was facing the changes of retirement. And of course I hope you feel like we're your new friends here too. Feel free to talk about things anytime. __________________ Gayla

11-07-2009, 11:06 PM	#5
Mrs.Purple Tea Server Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Northern Illinois Posts: 2,769	Awww....Amy ...I've been your shoes, and it is hard to move away from everything that you knew and get used to the new life. I had lived in the same small town all of my life with the exception of a year in college. My parents, brothers, and Gram all lived close by. My girls were in first grade and third grade. We moved 7 1/2 hours away to Kentucky. My husband's brothers and their wives already lived there so we all became neighbors. For a while the challenge of moving, setting up a household, and doing home renovations kept me very busy. We were involved in our church and I got along well with my sister-in-laws. But there came a time when it all hit me. I was out in the country and really didn't know a soul. It was hard to make that move. But now it is one of the things that I am most proud of. I found out that people do care, no matter where you are. And it is hard to make new friends but my daughters school was a great place to start. I got involved with Girl Scouts, and doing stuff at the school with the PTA. I guess you can kinda say I used my girls for ice breakers. LOL! I stepped up at church and got involved there with making gift baskets for the people that were in the hospital or nursing homes. That got me out and meeting new people. So take a deep breath and just give yourself a little hug. Every change brings a little bit of grief, but then it brings along a lot of opportunity. We will all be here to listen to you any time and give you support. We care. __________________ Mitzi Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. Ferris Bueller, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Home is where you keep your stuff while you are out getting more stuff.


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11-08-2009, 10:30 AM	#6
amymorgan1970 Tea Cake Baker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX USA Posts: 201	Thank all of you so much. I really needed this. Thank you for caring about a complete stranger. God Bless all of you.

11-09-2009, 12:29 AM	#7
bearwoman Moderator Tea Party Addict Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 8,448	Ah amy i know how you feel.I moved away from all i knew 11 years ago.and for the first 3 months i cried myself to sleep every night.its very hard to adjust to any move really.hopeing you can find some peace somewhere and some great new friends.

11-09-2009, 12:33 PM	#8
sheila Tea Server Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 3,331	:to you we moved into our new farm house in the country on our small farm from the city While I am glad we are finally down here the stress was and still is hard I have a lot in my family We all experiance different kinds. I hope you soon find some release and some joy Try listening to the music you love Enjoying nature Do some form of hobby you love. hugs to you sheila __________________ I know I have a guardian angel by my side all the time I am very thankfull. Sheila (teaberry girl) www.ohkayteagirl2.blogspot.com *the more you give to others the more you receive in return.*

11-09-2009, 03:52 PM	#9
JMNBean Guest for Tea Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: U.S.A. Wisconsin Posts: 33	Wow! I'm happy I found this site because I thought I was going through some of the most difficult times in my life and here I am with another. I can't top it because it is a horrible devastating feeling when CHANGE...is not always what we would like it to be. At this moment tears are beginning to form. Why is it that this site is all the people that mean well, but don't get enough of the true wellness of being beautiful, compassionate people? We all want to live this...so my heartfelt prayers to you. We all constantly need this!!!

11-09-2009, 08:38 PM	#10
amymorgan1970 Tea Cake Baker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX USA Posts: 201	Thank you. If people were more compassionate, the world would be a much better place. Blessings.

11-10-2009, 11:39 AM	#11
mcgill Moderator Parlor Devotea Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: New Brunswick, Canada Posts: 10,816	Amy, please be gentle with yourself. You're going through a phase of grief - loss of familiarity of surroundings & friends. The circumstances surrounding them are beyond your control, so please don't try and let this get you down. __________________ "Music Is God's best gift to Man: The only art of heaven given to earth; The only art of earth we take to heaven."

11-10-2009, 01:23 PM	#12
JMNBean Guest for Tea Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: U.S.A. Wisconsin Posts: 33	Oh Yeah!!! I agree!!!

11-10-2009, 04:26 PM	#13
amymorgan1970 Tea Cake Baker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX USA Posts: 201	Thank you Mcgill. It is a huge adjustment/loss. Texas is a far cry from Ohio. It is like moving to a new country. I was so upbeat and positive when I left Ohio. But I think the stress is getting to me. I hate things being so uncertain. I know to trust in God's path. But it is very hard for me.

11-11-2009, 07:47 AM	#14
Smiling Dawn Tea Party Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 8,115	__________________ It all is not lost, where is it? ~Barbara Johnson Dh tells me he was in the mood for Christmas shopping the other day. But he doesn't remember when... or exactly... or which day that was. Lol!

11-11-2009, 08:29 AM	#15
French Girl Scone Maker Join Date: May 2009 Location: wisconsin, u.s. Posts: 475

11-11-2009, 09:11 AM	#16
amymorgan1970 Tea Cake Baker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Houston, TX USA Posts: 201	Thanks guys.

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