Bad words from school

[amymorgan1970]

My daughter has been picking up less than desirable words and such from school.

I had hoped that the fact that it was a Christian Pre-School would cut down on this. I wasn't fool enough to think it would not happen.

I spoke to her teacher. I signed a contract and it in stated that talk of this nature would not be accepted. I realize that the teacher has little control over this when the kids are outside playing.

I realize also with the big move and all, Bri is trying to fit in. The teacher tells me that she is very good and well behaved at school. She was very upset when I told her what was going on.

I suppose everything is funny when you are five. I was a very painfully shy child. It is hard for me to understand my flamboyant little girl.

Any words of wisdom?

Thank you.

[Mrs.Purple]

Well, I guess first of all, I would say remember just because its a Christian school does not mean that only angels go there. You would think that the kids would be better behaved but not necessarily so....they are still kids who are trying to find the edges of the envelope...so they can push them. Just like anyother group of kids. Bless their little hearts! Thats their job!

When my little ang..I mean my little girls would come home with a new vocabulary (that I didn't like!!!!) we would make sure to discuss with them that there are just some words that should not be used. We also (within limits) discussed what somethings mean...you don't have to get vulgar, but I'm assuming that a lot of these words pertain to body parts or bathroom activities (thats a huge stage at that age) but knowledge is power, and it takes some of the power away from those words.

I have a shy, more controlled girl (she is almost 18 yrs old) and another daughter that just is the most social butterfly ever (she is 15 yrs old). I don't know if you can ever truly understand either type totally. They are unique....

[Gayla]

I agree with Mrs.Purple. All throughout her school years, whether she goes to a Christian school or not, she will see behaviors and hear words that aren't desireable. It's just a great opportunity to use these things to teach her, or reinforce lessons, about good and bad choices....what is acceptable and what's not tolerated.

I know it's so hard because you want to shield them from these things but the reality is that they're out there. And I hate to tell ya...but it probably will get worse with age.

[French Girl]

I would have to agree with Mrs purple and Gayla. My kids are homeschooled and picked up stuff from you name it even kids at church. Seems like potty talk is popular even with my 18yr old who is ready to get kicked out of house(just kid)...Kids are clueless at times and at 5 she probably doesn't understand what she is saying.It does get worse with age I totally agree with that.But with that being said that doesn't mean they should get away with it. one thing I would show my kids when they were young was a clear piture of water and some mud. I would tell them that words have meaning and this is how regular words are, but when you start using the bad words(put mud into water) they would see how dirty the water would get. I would tell them as you use bad words you get a dirty mouth. I would ask them if they wanted a drink .Of course no..I read that friom somewhere thought it was good teach ex...its tough being a parent sometimes....

[Smiling Dawn]

I agree with the suggestion to talk with your girl.

You could do a simple study on words from the Bible; look under the topic of speech.

What we say is important. Even a child is know by their doings; she doesn't want to be known as someone who has a potty mouth. Talk about different people you know and what comes to your mind when you think of them. Pick good examples to show her how this is true. Then pick a couple bad ones. You can even use famous ones.

What comes out of our mouth is usually what we allow into our hearts and minds ears and eyes. Bad or good.

It will be a precious time of learning and conversation between you and your girl.

[amymorgan1970]

Thank you guys so much. It has helped me to read your postings.

I try to ignore as much as possible. But when she called someone a puss, I went to the teacher and she (Brianna, not the teacher) got a taste of soap. I know that two of the boys in her class are the ones.

I haven't heard "dirty" words much since. I asked her if she thought that God would be happy to hear her being so mean and rude. She said that she didn't think so. So we talked about if you think Mom, Dad, or God wouldn't want to hear what you are saying, you might not want to say it.

We had the talk about treating other how you want to be treated.

Blessings,
Amy

[mcgill]

Amy, I agree with what the others stated. When teaching young students & teens, I made it a point to tell them "why I didn't talk 'like the rest of us.' "

I especially pointed out to the teens that they had a choice to talk "gutter talk" or learn to speak civilly in the language and grammar which they were being taught to use. The type of language they choose to use tells me a lot about the person's background (breeding, if you wish) and desire to use the idiom around them. I left them with something to think about, especially since i was telling them that I saw them as young ladies and gentlemen.

[JMNBean]

How touchy can it be in the educational system when you have to be sooooo careful with what you say and hearing the language of students as well. It's not as easy as we like it to be to correct students nor is it easy to be supported by staff, parents, and administration.

The communication is horrible!!! What's worse is everything turns into something more than what it is especially when there is no resolution. It's as bad as playing the game of telephone AND!!!!!!!!! find out it didn't even come out the way it was supposed too. Thanks to my lawyer friend in really understanding this!!! HELLO! HELLO! HELLO! Wake up educational system because I ended up as a victim and I'm not teaching right now due to something I said in a very non-shalant way. Just a discussion in a 3rd grade class. Ben Franklin times and history. Not intending to harm, hurt or cause any kind of disruption and ther was none at the time plus it was a fairly productive day. BUT!!!! the child (it only took one child from that 3rd grade) goes home and tells their guardian what I said.

I get a letter from the school district NOT knowing what it was about AND I have to call to find out ONLY to hear they had their mind already made up EVEN when I was trying to explain. It didn't work! NOBODY WON and they didn't care because I never wanted to move all the way down to just substitute teaching (prior to all this) when I had a fulltime position and worked (excuse the word) **** hard for it with a master's degree. When you put your whole heart into something and whether it's a money or a personal vendetta or whatever issue... I HAVE BEEN THERE!!! DO I CARE??? I WOULD CARE MORE IF MISUNDERSTANDINGS WOULDN"T TURN INTO MORE THAN WHAT THEY END UP BEING!!! LIKE IT"S THE WORST CRIME EVER COMMITTED!!! KIDS are learning to become attentive listeners SO HELP THEM learn to listen by not being afraid to find out the truth...even if it's ugly, take the time for feelings to be understood and get the backup you need, counselors, police when needed. When you hear...that's innappropriate...why did you say something like that?...they're too young to know that...it's the think before you act thing, but when it doesn't work DON'T GET HUFFY about it... to find a way to work it out. It's what we all want. There's too much critical analysis paralysis and not enough COMPASSION to take control of our emotions by exchanging them...very difficult and seems immpossible to do in order to resolve problems. Similar to being in someone elses shoes...moccassins... and they feel squishy...walking in the crap...garbage... the throwing pies and tomatoes at you type of thing...oh yeah...he who casts the first stone and has not sinned...whew!

I had to drop the stone and walk away. Where I'm going? I don't know...all I know is I want it to be of some service and if i ever get to it being better that's a BONUS...with NEVER!!! an intention to be of a dis-service to anyone.

[amymorgan1970]

Thanks Mcgill. It is funny and all to a five year old.

I know she is just trying out things. I am trying to remember how sharing and caring she is and try not to sweat out this "phase". She is extremely intelligent and I am sure will figure out that bad things lead to less priledges and more time outs.